I love this and I can’t wait for the dudebros to cry more
i’ll bring extra popcorn just for their crying show tbh
Yes! Of course i can. For those who want to be unspoiled (for either the book or the movie), please stop reading! Also: I’ll tag this with gone girl spoilers – in case anyone wants to blacklist it. Anon, sorry for taking so long to answer this but I was busy! Thanks for the lovely question!!!!
Getting to the point: Some time ago I read an article discussing how now audiences loved ‘unlikeable’ leads and how it allowed characters (and their overall narrative) to go ‘dark’ and to a complex place. The main examples it gave where Dexter and, most importantly, Walter White. That much is true! But I wouldn’t say it benefits every character. Male characters are allowed to go “dark and complex” while still being the leads and having an audience that roots for them.
It’s more difficult for women. Women are often criticized for everything. And in media? Their characters are mostly reduced to the same tired stereotypes: the damsel in distress, the victim, the trophy wife, the evil ‘slut’, the brave rape victim (hotelsongs made this brilliant post about this specific problem, and how Gillian Flynn tackles it) ,etc, etc.
My favorite thing about Gone Girl is that it gives us a female antagonist that isn’t written through male lenses. Amy isn’t carefully written so that men won’t feel threatened by her, so that she won’t emasculate them.
Still, Amy’s character is defined by her multiple ‘personalities’ all of which she puts to try to –first- please men and then, to dominate them. All those stereotypes male writers tend to turn women characters into? Amy becomes them. She’s the damsel in distress for Desi, the perfect child for her parents, the “cool girl” and then the “trophy wife” for Nick, the “victim” for the media, and I can go on. She’s a product of misogyny and the book explores that. This post explains it better than I ever could so I’ll link it too.
There’s a scene in the book, where Amy says she thought Nick knew she was pretending, that she thought they both were. But Nick wasn’t, because men don’t need to pretend. Remember that part in Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s wonderful speech in which she says that we (society) teach women to “turn pretense into artwork”? Gone Girl works as great commentary for that. That’s Amy.
So why is the ending important? The whole book is about Amy turning Nick into not a “perfect husband” but a husband that is perfect for her. As she puts it, he’s finally her match. By the end, she doesn’t have to pretend anymore, not inside of their fucked up marriage. And while she still has to do it for the outside world, now Nick has to do it too. They’re equals (in that sense, as much as she lets him be - she’s still more intelligent,the mastermind, etc). It’s not that she won privileges – it’s that he lost some of his (which where inherently for men). And what is the last ‘stereotype’ she turns herself into? The one that gets her to “win”? The mother! And I think that’s so great in so many ways, because it’s a spin into the conception that the most important thing that women can achieve is to be a mother. And Amy just uses that to benefit herself!
So, to summarize: Amy’s “villainous” ways are a product of misogyny - of all the unhealthy expectations men –and society- give to women. And the thing that is so scary about her (for men, I guess) is that she appropriates it and –kind of- uses it as her strength. She’s literally a “male nightmare”. Like, Nick writes their story from his point of view and she downright erases it. She’s the one with the last word (as the last line so wonderfully puts it!). And she wins! Female antagonists are always punished by their narratives so this is so refreshing.Lastly, i think any other ending would have felt wrong.
And If all of this still isn’t enough for you 1) I’m sorry for my dumb explanation 2)just imagine all the buttheart dudebros after watching the (movie) ending (which I really, really hope they keep)!!!!
- Donate money to have those arrested in Ferguson released on bail. These people belong on the streets, especially at a time like this.
- Send a note of condolence to the family of Michael Brown.Let’s not forget the tragedy that started this.
- Donate to the Michael Brown Memorial Fund. This is an official fundraiser run by the Brown family’s lawyers. They are going through so much, lets make sure at the very least it isn’t a financial burden.
- Help get people on the ground. There are activists and reporters who want to do their part and get to Ferguson. Donate and get them there. I am so far aware of Zellie Imani, Zak Jemmott, and JR Valrey(a reporter for SF Bay View).
- Donate to the Ferguson Youth Initiative.The children of this community deserve better than to be gunned down. Make sure they get that in the future.
- Feed the children of Ferguson. Many children in America rely on school to get their meals and thanks to the civil unrest caused by the police, the children of Ferguson have been without school since Monday. These people want to make sure that doesn’t mean anyone is going hungry.
- Find a National Moment of Silence in your area. If one doesn’t exist, start one. Share this experience with others. Solidarity is important.
- Keep awareness up. Not just among the like-minded people on tumblr, this is something everyone needs to be aware of.
- Spread accurate information. There is a lot of distortion going on here and spreading every piece of information as it is reported only makes that worse. First and foremost make sure you are listening carefully, then share what is important and relevant.
If you are aware of any good causes or ways to help that I have missed, please reblog and add them.